Tips On Spicing Up Your Love Life When It’s Gone Stale

Have you tried the ‘Head Rush’?

A healthy sex life plays a significant role in intimate relationships. But, it’s common to get stuck in routine and find that your love life has lost its spark. To keep your sex life going strong in the long-term, it’s necessary to try new things and new ways of exploring your sexuality together. Here are my picks for ways to get back into the groove when your sex life has stalled out.

Photo – Brazzers (A Late Night Visitor)

Dirty Talk

Believe it or not, outside of the typical “oohs and ahhs,” many couples are conservative when it comes to dirty talk. And, if you’re not taking full advantage, it’s time to start. Erotic verbal communication increases excitement and sexual arousal. When done right, it allows you and your partner to express your desires, surrender to your fantasies, lower your inhibitions and have a more satisfying experience.  

Sex Outdoors

Often a change of scenery is the best way to spice up your love life. Sex outdoors is taboo, which makes it all the more exciting. The thrill of the forbidden, and the prospect of getting caught drives your adrenaline pumping and enhances your sexual encounter. If you’re not ready to get completely down and dirty outdoors, start some sexy foreplay outside before taking it indoors. For tips, we made a guide to outdoor sex that might just inspire you! 😉

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Photo – Brazzers (From Dorky to Dick Fiend)

Role Play

A great way to get out of your routine and spice things up is with some role play. Whether you have your partner play a seductive nurse, or a naughty school teacher, role play offers the opportunity to escape the ordinary and play out your fantasies. Talk to your partner about your fantasies and discuss hers. Men enjoy visual stimulation, so incorporating costumes is a must. You’re only limited by your imagination, so get those creative juices flowing.

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Photo – Brazzers (Yoga Freaks: Episode Three)

New Positions

Couples tend to fall into the habit of doing the familiar in bed – and that includes positions. Falling into the same sex routine can dampen the spark of your relationship. There are plenty of positions out there to keep you from getting bored. If you don’t know where to start, try the simple ‘Reverse Cowgirl’ position where the woman is on top, faced away from you. Or, if you’re a bit more experimental, try the ‘Head Rush’. In this position you move to the edge of the bed, on your back, with your head and shoulders on the floor as your female partner straddles you. Just 2 examples, but hey, get creative!

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Photo – Brazzers (Sink the Pink)

Sexy Game Night

What better way to spice things up than with a sexy game night?! Today, you’ll find everything from the strip version of beer pong, to an erotic game of truth-or-dare. You can even find sexy board games made specifically for couples, or make up your own game. You can even download adult games on your mobile devices. The goal is to have fun and do something different with your partner to keep things interesting.

What are some things you’ve done to spice up your love life? Let me know!

Written by Nikki Benz

Life lesson provider, Pomeranian lover, and Adult Industry specialist. Don of the #BenzMafia.