An estimated 48 percent of men use pick up lines regularly, according to Christopher Brya, author of the book WTF Are Men Thinking?
If you’re part of the 48 percent relying on cheesy one-liners, it’s time to stop. And if you’re not, certainly don’t start. Here’s why: they don’t work.
Put simply, pick up lines are corny. But, there’s more to it than that. Pick up lines are counter-intuitive. Instead of providing an opening to get your foot in the door and engage in conversation with the woman you’re attracted to, it’s more likely to cause her to shut you down and dismiss you right away. Here’s specifically why pick-up lines don’t work and what you should do instead.
They are too Superficial
Pick up lines are meant to break the ice and get the conversation started so you can get to know one another. However, when a guy walks up and drops a pick up line, it does the exact opposite. It gives the woman the impression that you could care less about getting to know her. She could be any girl at that given moment. She knows you’re just playing the numbers game and that you’ve probably dropped that same pick up line on multiple women that night, in hopes that one of them falls for it. Sure, if it’s 2 am, last call for alcohol and she’s inebriated, it might work. But when it comes to quality, any girl who’s worth getting to know won’t fall for a pick up line. Unless they fall for it ironically, in which case you’re lucky to have found a one-of-a-kind woman that can tolerate your humor.
Exudes the Opposite of Confidence
Women love a confident man. But, you’re wrong if you think you’re exuding confidence by sauntering over to a beautiful woman and saying: “Are you a magician? Because when I look at you everyone else disappears.” It gives the impression that you don’t feel as though you’re good enough on your own, so you’ve armed yourself with pick up lines to appear confident and clever. It says that you lack confidence in your ability to capture a woman’s attention by being yourself. A man who is truly confident in himself doesn’t need pick up lines. He knows that he can attract a woman with his own charm, wit and ability to develop chemistry. A confident man is not afraid of rejection, so he doesn’t need to hide behind corny pick up lines.
A woman wants to feel that you picked her out of the crowd because you notice something special about her. When you approach this attractive girl, she wants to know that you have a genuine interest in getting to know more about her. When you’re connecting on a sincere level, you then truly realize how useless a pick up line approach would have been. They’re mass produced, over-used, infamously common, and give women the impression that your interest is disingenuous. You’ll have much better luck if you walk up to a woman and strike up a conversation by communicating honestly. And if the idea of honest communication makes you uncomfortable, then it is probably best that you work on your confidence before approaching the next woman, instead of pretending to be something you’re not. Unless you’re pretending to be a mozzarella stick. Then by all means, be cheesy.
They’ve Heard Them All
Put yourself in a woman’s shoes. Do you really think you’re the first guy who has told her “Is your daddy a drug dealer? Because you’re dope.” Or, “Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?” We admit, guys have the cards stacked against them. They’re expected to approach women with charm and confidence, bounce back from rejection and keep marching forward to get the girl of their dreams. We get it, guys have it tough when it comes to approaching women. But pick up lines aren’t the answer. So do yourself a favor and erase pick up lines from your repertoire. You’ll find that you can do much better without them. I believe in you.
What’s the worst pick up line you’ve ever heard or seen tried on someone?