How To (Hopefully) Escape The Friend Zone

Sometimes you just need to set the tone and the moment will present itself.

The best way to stay out of the friend zone is to avoid getting there in the first place. However, this isn’t always possible. No matter how good your efforts are, at some point in your life you may find yourself in the friend zone with someone you have romantic feelings for. And if you get rejected, don’t feel down about it, some of the best relationships start out as friendships. Keep in mind that it’s not always possible to get out of the friend zone, but there are steps you can try to escape the friend zone and establish a romantic connection with the one you’re interested in.

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Genuinely Be Interesting To Them

If all you do is hang out and play Pokemon GO – while it’s a great way to meet chicks –  you’re never going to get out of the friend zone. Having interesting things going on in your life makes people more attracted to you. If you want your friend to see you in a different light, give your boring life an overhaul. This is not only good for getting out of the friend zone, but it also helps attract new prospective partners. Build a solid foundation of interesting hobbies and ways to spend your time that will change your friend’s perception of you and get her attention. It can be as simple as asking to go out for a drink and walking somewhere nice where you can pause and tell her how you feel – if the moment seems right. Sometimes you just need to set the tone and the moment will present itself.

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Become Less Available

If you hang out with your friend all the time like chums, you’ll find it challenging to get her to see you as anything but a friend. As eHarmony suggests, start distancing yourself just enough so that she sees you’re out living an interesting life. This doesn’t mean ignoring her texts and phone calls and acting like a ‘f*ckboy‘. What you want to do is start being busy with other things. When she wants to hang out, let her know that you’re not available that day and suggest a date in the near future. You’ll become more attractive to her once she sees that you have other things going on in your life.

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Don’t Be Too Nice

Being at your friend’s beck and call, helping her out at her every whim will definitely keep you in friend zone. If she’s calling you up to change her oil or carry her bags while she goes shopping, it’s time to switch things up. Stop watering her grass, rotating her tires and putting together her Ikea furniture. If she calls you up for any of those things, let her know that you’d love to help but aren’t available, and recommend another friend to help her out. This will help change her perception of you as ‘Johnny Stop and Go Fetch’.

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Be Interested in Other People

There’s nothing worse than looking needy, but that’s the impression you’re giving off if you’re hanging out with her all of the time with no other love interests in your life. People are more desirable when we know they are desired by others. That’s why you have to let her know that you have a couple of girls you’re interested in. Go out on dates and tell her your funny date stories. When she sees that you’re desirable to other girls, it increases the chances that she’ll change her perception of you.

For more steps, see Psychology Today’s article on the subject and let me know if you’ve managed to successfully get out of the friend zone!


Written by Nikki Benz

Life lesson provider, Pomeranian lover, and Adult Industry specialist. Don of the #BenzMafia.