Relationships often serve as some of the most meaningful components of our lives. However, not all relationships work out and it’s important to know when to call it quits and move on so you can find a more compatible partner. If you’re wondering when to break it off, here are five signs that it’s time to throw in the towel, as inspired by advice from professional relationship counselor, Elly Prior.
Constantly Criticizing Each Other
Nitpicking at every little thing your partner does, or vice versa, is often a major sign that your relationship is not working. Criticism is a way of attacking a partner’s character and typically a way of expressing discontentment. Pointing out what your partner sees as your flaws is an unhealthy form of expression. Unfortunately, constant criticism causes partners to distance themselves from each other and damages relationships. If your partner is that unhappy with you, or vice versa, it’s likely time to breakup and move on.
You No Longer Have Feelings for Her
Relationships change, evolve and go through periods of growth. These changes can be exhilarating, or tumultuous. Sometimes changes occur that cause the relationship to take a turn for the worse. When this happens, you may find yourself often reminiscing about how the relationship used to be, or the feelings you used to have. When you just no longer have the same feelings for your partner, it can be a sign to call it quits.
You Avoid Spending Time Together
As humans, we tend to avoid things that are unpleasant – this includes being around certain people. If you’re constantly fighting or otherwise having unpleasant interactions, it’s only natural to start spending more time away from each other. You may find yourself spending more time at the office, or out with your buddies doing your own thing. This is a sure sign that your relationship has gone sour. And don’t get me wrong, everyone needs their own space in a relationship – but when you have to consistently create that space is when you have to evaluate whether the relationship is becoming problematic.
You’ve Stopped Putting in Effort
Relationships take time, effort and work to build and maintain. When you’re in a healthy relationship, it’s easy to put in the necessary effort to keep a relationship going strong. However, when your relationship has gone South, you may find yourself less likely to put effort into the relationship. You may feel that you just don’t care anymore whether the relationship lasts or not. You may stop caring about your partner’s feelings and find yourself in a generally apathetic state. Once you get to a point where you just don’t care anymore, it may be time to breakup.
Most often, you have to trust your gut in a relationship. If you don’t feel like you’re advancing in your relationship, or contributing to each other’s lives in a meaningful way, you might want to consider your options.