Rejection hurts, but it is, unfortunately, a part of life. How you respond to adversity in life is what shapes your true character. Perhaps you finally told the girl you were crushing on that you were interested in her and she shot you down. Or, the chick you thought you had a good date with doesn’t return your calls. Either way, you have to learn to shake it off and bounce back.
Give Your Self-Esteem a Boost
Rejection is common, but that doesn’t make it any easier to deal with. When your self-esteem takes a hit, the best thing to do is build yourself back up quickly. Shift your energy so that you’re focusing on the things you do really well, whether it be sports, gaming, hiking or indulging in a time consuming hobby (and no, swiping through Tinder isn’t considered a hobby). When you spend your time on things that you’re good at and enjoy doing, it makes you feel good about yourself. This helps reduce how rejection clouds your self-perception. Remember, one failure doesn’t define you!
Get Your Squad Together
It’s important to have a support system in life. Not just for times like when you’re facing rejection, but for all of life’s ups and downs. Surround yourself with people who care about you enough to remind you that you are loved and that you mean something to them. Get together with your friends, whether it’s for a game night, or a night on the town. They’ll get your mind off of your most recent strike-out and hopefully help turn your night into a home-run.
Accomplish a Short-Term Goal
When you face rejection, you need to distract yourself with something positive. Pull out that list of short-term goals that you stuffed into your drawer and choose one to complete. This could be something like rebuilding your bike, baking some treats, or painting your indoor back porch. Accomplishing a short-term goal serves as a distraction and provides you with a means to receive a small ego boost. When you complete the goal, you’ll find your self-worth increases.
Evaluate Your Type
Sometimes you experience rejection because you’re attracted to the wrong ‘type’ for you. If you find yourself constantly getting rejected, it may be time to evaluate the type of women you’re attracted to. Do you find yourself attracted to women who are unavailable? Perhaps you find yourself attracted to women who are more successful than you. Either way, being attracted to the wrong type is more likely to end in rejection.
Don’t Let It Slow You Down
Often times when someone rejects you, the natural response is not to want to bother going on dates for a while. That’s actually the opposite of what you should do. Continue going on dates with other women until you find one that you have a spark with. If you’re busy getting to know other girls, you won’t have time to think about the one who rejected you. A good rule of thumb is to see a rotation of potential partners. That way you’re not focused solely on one person and it won’t make or break you if they, for some reason, decide to break things off.
What are some things you’ve done to bounce back from rejection? Let me know in the comments below (Yes, I read them).