Besides the superficial aspects, such as looks and finances, what really makes us desirable to potential partners? Relationship researchers say certain key traits can make or break you when it comes to desirability. Not only do these traits increase your desirability in romantic relationships, but they appear to contribute to success in other aspects of your life, such as your career. These traits?
Trust, Integrity, Openness, Emotional Stability.
It’s not your new partner’s fault that your ex cheated on you, or couldn’t be trusted. That’s no excuse to go through your partner’s phone, hack into their social media and behave in a distrustful manner. In fact, trust issues are the cause of major strain in relationships. Trusting your partner actually makes you more desirable and makes for a more harmonious relationship. This means that you aren’t suspicious of your partner’s motives. You let down your guard and trust that he or she is honest and sincere.
Integrity is a combination of traits that embody moral character. If you talk about your friends behind their backs, lie at the drop of a hat, manipulate people to get what you want, make empty promises, and are dishonest when it suits you, then it’s safe to say that you lack integrity. A person with integrity says what he means and means what he says. He keeps his promises, stands up for what he believes in, doesn’t cheat his way through life, treats people fairly and holds himself to a high level of sincerity. Both men and women rank integrity high on their list of most desirable characteristics in a partner.
If you’ve built up a wall and have trouble letting people in, you’re unknowingly making yourself a less desirable partner. People who are emotionally open make better partners because they’re aware of their feelings and they know how to effectively communicate their feelings to their partners. This brings partners closer together and facilitates bonding. It does involve allowing yourself to be vulnerable, but, it’s worth the risk. Being emotionally open allows others to connect with you and sets the foundation to build emotional chemistry.
Even-Tempered / Emotionally Stable
Going around emotionally reacting to everything in your environment, flying off the handle at the drop of a hat and being overly emotional is a total turn off to potential mates. People look for even-tempered partners because managing your emotions is a sign of maturity. It means you’re unlikely to engage in damaging behaviors that put stress on relationships such as jealousy, self-loathing and uncontrolled fits of anger. People who are emotionally stable are also much more able to understand the emotions of others and exhibit empathy.
Which traits do you look for in a partner? Let us know below!