A Porn Star’s Advice: Signs You’re Dating a Gold Digger

Now I ain't sayin' she a gold digger. But she might be.
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The 21st century gold digger is harder to detect than in years past. Whether male, or female, a gold digger dedicated to their craft makes it much less obvious that they’re out for your coins. Recognizing the sneaky signs early on can save your heart and your bank account a world of trouble.

I think we all pretty much know what a gold digger is. But for those of you who don’t, it’s basically somebody who’s out to milk you for all the money, gifts, and free things you can give them. They will feign emotions and lie until they’re blue in the face for your goods. With that said, it’s important to recognize when you’re being taken for a run for your money. If you thought fuckboys were bad, wait until you learn about the gold digger.


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Shows Strong Interest in Your Financial Affairs

People who place high value on material possessions almost always show immediate interest in the material side of who you are. They’ll make it obvious that they’re overly impressed with the kind of car you drive, your jewelry and the kind of home you live in. A statement like “wow, you drive a Ferrari, you must be doing really well for yourself!” may seem innocent, when in truth, the goal digger is sizing up your assets right from the start. This is sort of along the lines of a ‘financial catfisher‘.

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Is Status/Label Obsessed

Not all high maintenance people are gold digger’s but we’ve never met a gold digger who wasn’t high maintenance. Gold diggers want the best someone else’s money can buy. If the person you’re dating seems obsessed with status, designer labels and has expensive tastes, and pesters you for new gifts all the time, you might have a gold digger on your hands. This status hunger is functions as a constant affirmation of the gold digger’s place in society when he or she cannot identify that place themselves. Basically, money and materials help them make sense of where they exist in the social spectrum – without it, they are lost.

Doesn’t Have the Income to Support Lavish Lifestyle

Here’s a common scenario. You go on a date with someone who drives a nice car, wears expensive jewelry and is draped in designer clothes, but as you get to know them you find out their occupation is a self-proclaimed “occasional model”. If you pay attention, you can gauge whether someone else’s dime is funding their lifestyle, which tells you all you need to know. Gold diggers almost always seem to be living a lavish, lux lifestyle, despite not having verifiable income to support it. This means they’ll also be running back to their supporter for more cash and gifts to sustain their expensive interests. Contrary to the idea of a scam where someone attempts to take money from another in hopes to become financially independent or self-sustainable, a gold digger is entirely dependent on their supporter and will continue to ‘tap the well’ until it runs dry.

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They’re Way Out of Your League

Let’s be honest here, if on a scale of 1-10 of physical attractiveness, you’re a 5 and the person you’re dating is a 10, there’s a good chance they’re after you for some sort of self-serving purpose. Now, we’re not saying that an average looking guy can’t land a super hot chick, but if she’s way out of your league, you may want to proceed with caution.

Their Friends are also Gold Diggers

People typically surround themselves with like-minded people, others who have the same values as they do. This should come as no surprise. So one of the best ways to determine a person’s motives is to examine their friendship circle. If their friends are also hyper materialistic, status obsessed and seem to be living a lifestyle that they don’t have the income to pay for, then consider the mystery of “is this person a gold digger?” solved. You’re welcome.

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Try this Test

If you’re still unconvinced, try this subtle test. Give the person you’re dating a heart-felt, inexpensive gift that you make yourself with a lot of thought. Gauge their reaction to the gift. The following week, give them a materialistic gift and gauge that reaction. Repeat the process enough times to see if you can spot a pattern. If you can clearly see which gift they react to the most, you may have your answer. If they value the materialistic gift  over the thoughtful, heart-felt item, time and time again, then you know where their values and true loyalties lie.

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Written by Nikki Benz

Life lesson provider, Pomeranian lover, and Adult Industry specialist. Don of the #BenzMafia.