Here’s What It Takes To Date A Porn Star – A Guy’s Perspective

Featuring: Sex, Jealousy, Normalcy and Trust.
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Photo – Brazzers (Massaging My Stepmom)

Dating a porn star isn’t just about mind-expanding sex with a woman who personifies the collective lust of thousands, maybe millions, of people worldwide. No, it’s much, much more than that. A lot of guys think that a relationship with a porn star is a kind of all-you-can-eat sexual buffet, without considering that maybe there’s more to adult performers than what they do for their day jobs. This can be a huge drag to some, and a sobering wake up call to others.

Sex

If you want to date a porn star, remember: they want to be desired for who they are, not just for what they do, because let’s be honest; that would be superficial. Think of it this way—imagine you’re a lawyer and you work in one of your city’s premier firms. You’re out at a bar on Friday night and you start chatting up a girl who you’re genuinely interested in. When you tell her what you do her eyes light up. Suddenly, she’s interested too, only she’s not interested in you as a person.

Jealousy

It’s also important to remember that, while porn stars are more than their jobs, a central part of their jobs is having sex with other people. This is work, obviously, so it’s not the same kind of sex you’d be having within the boundaries of your relationship, but if you’re the jealous type, you might want to consider your own limits. Never get into a relationship hoping to change some essential part of someone. Porn stars are professionals, and they’re passionate about their jobs, so if you can’t respect that, it might be best to take a step back and re-evaluate the situation.

Like with everything else in life, confidence goes a long way when it comes to dating an adult performer. If you’re too shy to approach a porn star, or nervous because she’s been with more people than you by a factor of, say, fifteen, don’t be. She’s not just a mindless pleasure droid. She’s also a human being, and it’s possible that she might be just as nervous to impress you as you are her.

Normalcy

While the sex you have with a porn star is certain to be exciting and possibly a lot more adventurous than you’re used to, don’t set unrealistic expectations. Porn stars’ insane sexual feats are mostly performed as part of the job, for the camera—not because they’re part of the performer’s sexual repertoire. No matter how dull it might seem, an adult performer might prefer good old normal sex, or even no sex at all after a long day shooting. There’s a certain degree of normalcy any porn star needs in their life.

Trust

Porn stars are regular people and like regular people they want to have normal, healthy relationships and as unsexy as it might seem, normal healthy relationships are all about honesty, trust and communication. Dating a porn star doesn’t require any game, being particularly well-endowed or attractive; it’s about being confident, open-minded, and interesting. Most importantly, it’s about acknowledging that, like you, porn stars are regular people, even if they have irregular jobs.

At the end of the day, you may know she’s having sex with someone else, but your agreement with her might include threesomes with her and some of her friends every now and then – so you get the benefit of looking forward to those extra experiences as well to keep things on a more even playing field. Just don’t go cheating on her. Set boundaries with her. Some examples could be: don’t kiss your co-stars, no hugging and cuddling off-camera with co-stars, no holding hands off-screen, and so on. Just try not to interfere with things she needs to do on camera to do her job well. Set your boundaries then give in to your trust. Trust is everything in a healthy relationship – especially with a porn star.

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Photo – Brazzers (Hot, Hot, Heatwave)

Final Consideration: Do you want to date her? Or just f*ck her?

If I may leave you with this last thought re-iterating the first point of this article about sex, consider this carefully: do you really want to date this porn star who has become the center of your affection? Or do you just want her for her body? Don’t confuse love and dating for lustful desires, because you’ll definitely turn into one of those boyfriends that makes the relationship awkward. And you might find her reading articles like this one, trying to figure out whether it’s time to get out of the relationship or not.

So next time you’re out and you happen to run across one of these starlets, don’t be shy. Who knows what might happen! For a female porn star’s perspective on this, see Nikki Benz’ suggestions for dating a porn star.

If you could date any porn star, who would it be and why? Let me know!

Written by Hugh Jasse

An eloquent soul, a lover of women, fine wine, and travel. I can often be spotted aboard a skiff in Santorini, catching rays and artfully plucking at my lute.