Trolling: A Porn Star’s Perspective

An overdue rant on social media harassment
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Commonly found in the bowels of hell, Internet trolls are a pervasive species that make using social media a double-edged sword.

Porn stars must continuously balance the risks and benefits. On one hand, social media provides a powerful way to reach your audience, market and promote your brand while facilitating fan interaction. On the other, it poses a threat to your emotional well-being when you’re faced with constant trolling. As sex workers we already face more judgment and criticism than the average person and social media provides a direct route for trolls to attack us, while they remain in the comfort of (pseudo)anonymity.

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My Personal Experience

As if it’s not enough that I spend a significant amount of my time defending my profession and life choices, it’s become the norm for trolls to target me and other adult performers on social media. Despite our best efforts, we’re still human, so sometimes we let it get to us. I can attest to mornings of logging into Twitter, reading unprovoked insults someone hurled my way and allowing it to ruin my mood. Although we can’t control the things people say about us on social media, we can control our reactions to it. I’ve learned to no longer allow faceless cowards to control my emotional well-being. Nowadays I simply hit the block button and keep it moving. I’ve got zero fvcks to give.

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It’s a Widespread Plague Problem 

Adult performers aren’t the only targets by far. Here’s an example where members of a sports podcast put together a video of men sitting with two female sportswriters – Sara Spain and Julie DiCaro – reading harassing tweets to their face. Some of the tweets included “One of the players should beat you to death with a hockey stick like the wh*** you are” and “I hope you get raped again,” referencing a sexual assault DiCaro endured in college. Some of the tweets are so disturbing, the men find it hard to read through them. And I think this applies here in spades. Don’t write online what you wouldn’t say to me in public. Period.

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The Psychology Behind Trolling

Know this – happy, fulfilled adults don’t troll. Online harassment is a maladaptive behavior that people who lack coping skills engage in as a means to deal with their own unhappiness and insecurities. ‘Science’ even confirms it.

Researchers from Miami University gained insight into online trolls by conducting a study on gamers. They found that low-skilled players trolled female players and were more hostile towards them. Conversely, they remained more civil and submissive to other males.

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In contrast, high-skilled players behaved positively toward female and male players alike. What’s more, high-skilled players tended to pay compliments to other players and help boost their teammates’ confidence. Meanwhile, low-skilled players left mean comments and were intent on bringing people down.

In addition, Canadian researchers from the University of Winnipeg conducted two studies of the personalities of internet trolls. To summarize their findings, researchers concluded that there exists a strong correlation between trolling and dysfunctional personality traits such as sadism, psychopathy, Machiavellianism and anti-social behavior. My translation; trolls are inferior, crazy, losers. #Science.

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Don’t Feed the Trolls

You’ve heard the saying, and I’m here to echo the sentiment, “Do NOT (under any circumstances) feed the trolls.”

They live to get a reaction out of you and your response does nothing but fuel their behavior. If you don’t believe me, just check out these trolls. The best solution is to ignore them and they will eventually go away. Remain positive, stay true to yourself and never let a troll compromise your character.

Have you ever spotted a troll attacking a porn star?

Written by Nikki Benz

Life lesson provider, Pomeranian lover, and Adult Industry specialist. Don of the #BenzMafia.