A Porn Star Explains How Role-Play Can Save Relationships

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One of the best things I’ve learned through more than a decade in porn is how to have fun with role-play. Every day on set is just another chance to role-play and dress up and get into character—but you don’t have to be a porn star to reap the rewards of role-play.

Role-play is a great tool to use if you want to spice things up in your relationship and keep things fresh. What’s more, if you’re worried about your partner losing interest, role-play is a fantastic way to throw their sexual expectations into a tailspin and make sure they never have a chance to get bored with the same old sex.

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Photo – Brazzers (Storm of Kings, A Game of Thrones XXX parody series)

Before you freak out and think that you have to make every role-play session as elaborate and scripted as a porn movie, let me assure you, you don’t. While you can certainly draw inspiration from some of your favorite x-rated films, you don’t have to go that crazy. Role-playing with your partner can be much simpler. You can head to your favorite bar and pretend you’ve never met and try to pick each other up, or you can pretend it’s your first date and you’re not sure if you’re going to be invited up for a “nightcap” when you drive your date home.

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Photo – Brazzers (A Burning Desire)

You may feel a bit silly at first, pretending that you don’t know each other or don’t know you’re going to get laid at the end of the night, but it’s worth it—if you stick it out, you’ll both have a lot of fun and feel sexier than you may have in a while. Plus, while it’s not the same as going home with someone new, there’s a lot to be said about going to bed with someone who knows exactly what it takes to get you off.

What’s great about role-play is that it allows you to feel all the new things—the nervous flutters in your stomach and your pulse racing as you wonder what’s going to happen next—as well as getting to experience the mind-blowing orgasm that only someone who knows your body as well as you do can give. It’s the perfect way to experience a night off from your usual lover without requiring either of you to stray and dip into infidelity.

Now, if you want to keep your role-play in the bedroom, there are plenty of options there as well.

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Photo – Brazzers (The C.E.Hoe)

You can go straight to the trusty porn movie tropes like teacher/student or boss/secretary, or you can branch out and try something different. Maybe you’re a star athlete and she’s a fan, or she’s the hot girl next door and you’re the nerdy guy who thinks he doesn’t stand a chance. Or if you enjoy darker, kinkier situations, maybe you’re a robber and you discover that your high-school sweetheart – who you haven’t seen in years – is the woman of the house you’re about to plunder. Really, the choice is all yours. What matters is that both of you are on board for the game, and that you’re both willing to play your part.

If you can’t get into the act, you’re trying too hard. That’s why it’s best to start with a simple, easy game. You want to be able to believe it, at least a little bit, so that you can really lose yourself in the act. Sure, you’ll know it’s not reality, but that doesn’t matter as long as you and your partner are having fun.

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Photo – Brazzers (Lost in Brazzers series)

After a few games, you might just discover that you like something you’d never have thought to try in your everyday sex life, and maybe your lover will enjoy it too. Or you’ll realize that you both enjoy the way things are and you’ve been fretting about things being “stale” for no reason at all. But whatever the outcome, any method of discovery that delivers a few more orgasms in the process is worth it. So go ahead, watch your favorite porn film, read your filthiest erotic novel, or simply get inspired by an old fantasy you’ve been keeping to yourself—and then invite your partner to come play with you. You won’t regret it!

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Photo – Brazzers (The Ballad of Johnny Nathan Pt.2)

What’s the most interesting role-play situation you’ve ever thought of?

Written by Nikki Benz

Life lesson provider, Pomeranian lover, and Adult Industry specialist. Don of the #BenzMafia.