How To Properly Introduce Porn Into Your Relationship

Hint: communicate and don't be selfish.

There’s no magic trick to getting your girlfriend, or wife into watching porn. The best approach is to simply ask her. Let her know how hot you think it would be to watch porn together, and how it’s a great way to get in the mood. Women often receive negative messages about porn from mainstream media, and while some would have us believe that porn damages relationships, research indicates just the opposite.

Scientists from the Department of Psychology at the University of Denver conducted a study of more than 1200 individuals, to evaluate what effect porn has on romantic relationships.

It turns out, couples who watch porn together report higher relationship quality in all markers, including sexual satisfaction, communication and commitment.

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Choose Your Scenes Wisely

It’s a good idea, at least in the beginning, to explore sites and videos that are geared toward the female demographic. Women have distinctly different tastes in porn than men. While most men prefer for performers to get right down to business, women often prefer a slower, softer, more sensual build up to the action. Adult content geared towards women is a great way to introduce porn to your girl. It tends to have more eroticism and extended foreplay, which women are more likely to be receptive to. Once your partner is comfortable, you can start expanding and exploring other genres.

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Make It About Her

Don’t start off by telling your girl that there’s a really hot porn star that you love to spank it to, and that you want to pick a movie with that specific performer in it. That’s not an ideal first introduction to porn and your girl may take offense to it. Instead, ask her to explore some sites or videos on her own first, and then she can choose a video for the two of you to watch together. This way she is steering the ship and feels more in control of the experience. Remember, you can (and likely do) watch porn on your own all the time, so focus this experience on her enjoyment. Porn is a great way to explore your fantasies with each other and she needs to feel that you’re making her viewing pleasure a priority.

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Have Open Communication Afterward

Things will likely get steamy while watching porn together, and you might find yourselves unable to keep your hands off of each other. That’s fine, but at some point afterwards, it’s crucial to have a conversation about the experience. This gives you and your partner an opportunity to discuss what you enjoyed about what you saw together. Keep the focus more on her and ask her what parts turned her on the most. Just as important, discuss what she liked least about it. Make mental notes so that you can use this as a roadmap for what to choose next time. Your girl is more likely to be up for watching porn with you regularly, if you can hone in on the type of porn she enjoys most.

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Have you already tried introducing porn into your relationships? How did that go? Let us know!

Written by Nikki Benz

Life lesson provider, Pomeranian lover, and Adult Industry specialist. Don of the #BenzMafia.