The Importance Of Respecting A Porn Star’s Privacy

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Mainstream and adult actors have chosen careers that place them in the public eye, concealed (though this is up to interpretation) in a ‘private’ niche. The downside is that having a public career comes at a price. Especially for adult performers, who society is already prejudiced against. This makes it crucial for fans to respect a porn star’s privacy. Failing to do so can have a significant impact on their life.

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Protects Their Safety

Exposing a porn star’s real name or home address may seem harmless, but can actually have dangerous consequences. While most fans are respectful and benevolent, there is a risk of encountering a fan who has become fixated and obsessed to the point of becoming a safety risk to the performer. Porn stars have shared frightening stories of coming home to a stranger on their property or in some cases, inside their home. Individuals with public careers must contend with the threat of stalkers, and it can impair their sense of safety. Everyone, regardless of career choice, deserves to feel safe in their own home.

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Keeps Relationships Intact

Many porn stars are open with their family and close friends about what they do for a living. Unfortunately, not everyone may be supportive, causing some performers to keep their career private from those close to them until they feel the time is right. Or, they may be involved in a new friendship, or relationship and want to tell them down the line as they grow closer. That’s why it’s important to assess the situation, should you recognize a porn star out in public. If she’s out with friends, or family who are none-the-wiser about her career, she doesn’t need you outing her in the name of fandom. It can place a strain on a porn stars close relationships when you ‘out’ them before they’re ready to tell those close to them about their career.

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Prevents Discrimination

It’s no secret, but nevertheless unfortunate, that not everyone is accepting of porn as a career choice. And despite progress, performers still face discrimination across key areas of life. Porn stars I know personally (though in the spirit of this article, I will protect their privacy) have reported having their children rejected from private school, being denied bank loans and having their bank accounts closed without warning, after being outed. This heavily affects them in their other workplaces and some performers still attend post-secondary schooling, or are pursuing second careers. There have been reports of porn stars being fired from their mainstream jobs, or ridiculed in class by teachers and classmates. You can see how not respecting a porn star’s privacy puts their quality of life in jeopardy.

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Helps Maintain Their Sense of Well-Being

When someone invades your privacy, there is no doubt that it negatively influences your sense of well-being. Porn stars are no different in that aspect. When you publicly ‘out’ a porn star, or divulge private information to the public, it removes the performers control over their own privacy. Perhaps your favorite porn star doesn’t want her mailman knowing all of her business. So don’t out her at the post office when all she’s trying to do is pick up her mail (unlikely right? I’m speaking from experience here). While many porn stars are flattered when they’re recognized in public, most want to feel as though they still have a personal life with some degree of privacy and anonymity.

Written by Nikki Benz

Life lesson provider, Pomeranian lover, and Adult Industry specialist. Don of the #BenzMafia.