How To Avoid Turning A Threesome Into A Disaster

Advice from a porn star who knows her sh*t.

Everyone has fantasized about three-way sex. Everyone. I’ve filmed more than a few threesome scenes and still it’s one of my top fantasies. But if you want to have a successful threesome, there are some things you need to know to ensure you get to have more than one. While there are a lot of things you can do, there are a few things you should definitely not do.

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Don’t go in blind

While you might be having a random, surprise threesome with some new friends you met at the bar, chances are, you’re already in a relationship and are planning to spice things up with your steady partner. And if that’s the case, you want to communicate beforehand. Discuss why you want to invite someone new into bed with you, what you expect to get out of it, and any ground rules you want to set. That whole line about “failure to plan is a plan to fail” isn’t bullshit — especially if what you’re planning is your first threesome.

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Keep your best friend out of the bedroom

Sure, you may think it’s a good idea to invite your #1 — or, more likely, your girlfriend’s BFF — to join you. After all, the three of you are already close, and chances are this person knows what you guys like in bed already. But you’re skating on thin ice if your third is someone who’s already so close to you or your other half. If things go well, you risk a blowup with your partner over whether one of you liked your third better. And no matter the outcome, you risk losing your friendship with your third — either because things went well and your partner freaked, or because things went poorly and now you just can’t look them in the face.

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Remember that your ménage à trois is just a treat, not a relationship

That means that you need to keep things casual. Keep the kissing and cuddling to a minimum, and avoid “dating” your third. Like keeping your best friend out of things, you don’t want to become too friendly with your new partner, either.

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Don’t couple up

A threesome is about all three of you. That means that everyone should be involved in some way in all the action. And if two of you do end up spending a little more time in one-on-one activities, be sure to check in with the third party to be sure you haven’t turned them into a third wheel. No one wants to just hang around while everyone else has fun — it’s not cool at a party and it’s not cool in a threesome.

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Most importantly, don’t let your inhibitions win.

If this is your first threesome, you’re going to want to enjoy it. That means letting loose and getting a little wild and crazy and trying new things. Maybe you’ve never been with another man or another woman, or maybe your partners want to try something you’ve never experienced. Give it a shot. If it turns out you don’t like something, that’s cool, you can always stop. But you’ll miss out on a lot of fvcking fun if you don’t take a chance.

 

What you should do, more than anything, is have fun. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable, so let loose, savor all the wildly arousing sensations. And then, do it all over again. After all, practice makes perfect!

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Written by Nikki Benz

Life lesson provider, Pomeranian lover, and Adult Industry specialist. Don of the #BenzMafia.